A lot goes on in my mind these days. The days are above all very emotional in numerous ways. I have come to see these emotions as an invitation to write. First of all to myself, but I have this website and some people subscribed to it, so why not share my stories with them? Once I will be on my way I’ll write a bit more about the adventure itself. Feel free to tell me what you would like to read about during the trip!
As departure draws closer, more and more questions start to arise. The most demanding of them all is the question; Who am I? Leaving all that if have behind, leaves me only myself to take. I can take many of you with me in the heart and the mind, but in the end there is just me. Just me to keep me going when times are tough. Just me to share in the joys and just me who will remember the rest of my life.
For long I thought that my identity was constructed by who I spend time with. Those people reflect my actions and give me an opportunity to reflect something back. I thought that that reflective behavior was me. The same goes for the country I live in. It defines who I am. But now that I start to slowly pull away from my dearest friends and family, I notice something familiar stays with me. I still remain. So there must be more to me than just the one who is interacting with others or reflecting from a cultural background. This ‘I’ is to be known by inner reflection from now on. Others are no longer able to make me define myself. As one person moves away, another comes in. This meeting of another makes me a different person, because I have to reflect myself different. But when people start to come and go faster than I can change myself, as will happen along the way, this way of identifying myself in reflection to others will start to fade away. There’s only one constant factor in me and that is me. It is only from knowing that, that I will really be able to interact with others. Of course, in each encounter with someone else do I reflect some part of myself. But these short interactions will not be as defining as spending years with someone.
Only from knowing oneself can one know another. How cliché it may sound, at the moment it feels true to me. I really wish for everyone to be able to be alone and be content with it. Only those who are happy with themselves can provide true happiness for others. It is my wish to be truly happy by (and with) myself. This is hard when surrounded by people I love. I hope it will get easier as I move away from all that I know.
The definite date for departure is set on July 3th, which is Thursday (check my schedule here). This is an open invitation for all those who would like to join me on my first km’s. I expect to be at the Duivelsberg at 9:30am. If you feel like joining me, please let me know by e-mail or phone.
You move me, Thomas! I will be thinking of you.
love,
Gauri
You keep me moving! Thanks
T.
Ik zal er donderdag zijn om de eerste kilometers met je mee te lopen. Nu eerst je verjaardag vieren……
Van harte gefeliciteerd met je 25e verjaardag!!!
Dikke kus.
Liefs Mam
Lieve Thomas,
Van Harte Gefeliciteerd met je verjaardag ! Overigens een bijzonder getal!
Veel liefs,
Willem-Paul
Hallo Thomas,
Van harte gefeliciteerd met je 25e verjaardag. Ik hoop dat het een gezellige dag wordt waar je op terug kunt kijken tijdens je tocht.
Ik wens je heel veel succes met je grote onderneming en zal je zeker blijven volgen. Aanstaande donderdag als jij je eerste dag er al een groot gedeelte op hebt zitten ga ik met je oma kijken op de bouw van haar nieuwe flatje. Voor haar is dit ook weer een stap in haar grote onderneming, verhuizen en weer zelfstandig gaan wonen.
Ik hoop dat deze tocht je mag brengen wat je nu voor ogen hebt. Groeten, Maria
Dag Maria,
Bedankt voor je berichtje! Het is erg inspirerend te zien hoe oma nog uit kan kijken naar iets nieuws. Dat is het dus nooit te laat voor! Alle goeds voor de komende tijd.
Groeten,
T.
Ik vind het erg interessant wat je schrijft over alleen zijn, en jezelf definiëren aan de hand daarvan. De verhouding met anderen houdt mij ook erg bezig, dus is het voor mij inspirerend om dit te lezen. Ik wens je toe dat je je werkelijk gelukkig mag voelen in je eigen gezelschap. Ik merk in mezelf de neiging om mijn eigen gedachten en ervaringen hierover te delen, maar denk eigenlijk dat je daar geen behoefte aan hebt dus laat ik het hierbij :).
Veel liefs, ik denk aan je vanuit Trinidad.
Karuna
Please go ahead. I need something to read. 🙂
Love,
T.